When a child is brought into this world, they deserve to be in an environment in which they can thrive and live the best possible life. If you are considering putting your child up for adoption because you feel you are unable to provide this type of environment – you are making a heartfelt and powerful decision to put the best interest of the child at the forefront.
You're Not Alone
Going through the adoption process can cause you to feel alone. Don't make this mistake. Not only are you putting unnecessary pressure on yourself, you're basing your feelings on information that is not factual. Every year, a number of parents make a similar decision. Always keep in your mind that you're doing what's best for your child, just as a countless number of other parents have done before you and will do after you.
You Have Control
Placing your child up for adoption does not mean that you are relinquishing control. You have control as to how the process goes. This is the case in every aspect of the process from when the adoption will take place to the type of relationship, if any, you will have with your child after the adoption has been finalized. Having this level of control gives you greater confidence that you're making the right decision and choosing the right family.
You Can Change Your Mind
Understand that you don't have to feel pressured. If you are still in the early stages of your decision process, any sense of forced finality can make you feel pressured and uncomfortable. Make sure you realize that you can take your time and most importantly, you can change your mind. The adoption is not final until all signatures have been provided and the information has been signed off by the courts as legal. Relax and understand you can move at your own pace.
Your Privacy Is Important
For some parents, a confidential adoption is the preferred arrangement. Parents who are seeking this type of arrangement should understand that their privacy isn't only important, but it's also protected. Your information can be placed in a sealed file that isn't visible to anyone, including the adopted child. Only you can make the decision to unseal the file and if you don't want to, this is not something you have to do.
Placing your child up for adoption is a serious decision and one that you should not make in hast. Take your time and rely on the support of friends and family as you go through the process.